Where to begin when it’s time to make a change

The idea of change can feel intimidating, overwhelming, heartbreaking, like a breath of fresh air, eye-opening, heart-glowing, soul-shaking.

Sometimes, all of it at once.

In recent years, I’ve grappled with a lot of change. Some big, some small, and in the inner landscape of mind and soul, almost all of it scary. I can’t decide which is more terrifying; when things happen to me, or when it’s up to me to make them happen.

But I have come to realize is that energy is better suited not wrestling with what may or may not happen, even when it feels urgent and noble and sexy (doesn’t it always?).

Rather, it’s not getting in your reserved seat in the emotional roller coaster, and shifting focus on what you need to do.

And there’s always something you can do.

Something obvious, something with common sense, something uncomfortable, something small.

Small is the new big

Small steps don’t seem fancy.

The idea of starting small can seem insignificant, or unworthy of your time, talent or circumstances.

But the best thing about taking small steps is that they get you moving, because it’s the not-moving, or spinning in the same old circles, that reinforces the thought that this is where you belong.

And you start to expect a little more from everyone else, and a little less from yourself.

We all know how that story goes. Nowhere great.

If the story is to be a good one, there has to be a turning point. Sometimes, several turning points.

That’s when it gets interesting. That’s when it wakes you up. That’s when you, or anyone else, begin to care.

Does that sound quaint?

Perhaps.

Just recognize this: small steps may not be fancy, but when they get you moving, they take you closer to the big leaps.

(Photo: Priya Saighal)