I've lied about being a fast learner on my resume. Okay, maybe it wasn't a total lie, because I have learned a few things pretty fast. Like what people want to read on a resume. Years later and a bit wiser, I've decided to give myself permission to be slow. What I mean by that is I recognize that when I learn something slowly, it tends to stick, sink in deeper and stick around longer, and I am okay with it. In fact, most of my hard-earned life lessons have come about this … [Read more...]
This simple fact changed my world, and it could change yours too
Who doesn't love an A-ha moment? Somehow, somewhere, a burst of deep understanding sinks in, and your perspective changes. You see things in a new light, maybe forever. I love that feeling. I'm immediately filled with gratitude, so glad to have a tiny part of life make more sense. But I admit, sometimes I want to kick myself. Why have I been so blind for so long, says the voice in my head. I could've used this wisdom and insight, like, five years ago when I . . . Like I said, I feel extremely … [Read more...]
How to say a better ‘no’
The ability to say no is a necessity. Saying it well is an art. Few people possess the skills to do both, and the rest of us need to practice. A friend of mine recently lost her mom, so when she turned my invitation down for an event, I understood. She's said she's been saying no a lot. She also said that if she wasn't engaged in our friendship as much, she was sorry. She was so sincere and thoughtful that it turned out to be one of the nicest no's I'd heard in a while. In contrast, … [Read more...]
Small steps and big leaps – The Energy Shift is here!
My second book, The Energy Shift: Increase Your Energy and Do More of What You Want Every Day is here! This book has, without a doubt, arrived after bearing witness to some of my most significant and life-changing moments. The writing and publishing of this book spanned the period over which I decided and then sold my business, went away on ten days of silent meditation, and addressed some deep limiting beliefs I'd held on to for a long time. But I was determined to see it … [Read more...]
Do empty spaces scare the hell out of you?
White space. Silence. Being alone. Do you find them terrifying? We like to fill our days, our moments, our hands with things to do. We're always busy. But when life moves too fast, when there's too much to handle, we yearn for a few moments to breathe, for peace, to climb down from the ledge we've suddenly found ourselves on. How did I get here? is the first question. Why is this happening? may be the second. We need...space. But too much space? We run. We hide. That's just as terrifying … [Read more...]
How do you know when you’re done?
It can be tricky, not knowing when you're done with something or someone. I know I've dragged things on for the wrong reasons, other times I've walked away not knowing whether I was smart to leave or a coward for quitting. I've prayed for an epiphany, a divine intervention, or at the very least, a supernatural neon sign blinking as brightly like one over a cheap Vegas motel. If only there was a way to be sure. There isn't. Yeah, you get lucky every now and then, but I can't rely on that. So I … [Read more...]
So, are you doing hard things?
Today, I got rejected 7 times, and counted 2 wins in my favor. One of the rejections was (felt) personal. I don't keep score as a rule, but on this day I did. After hearing one no after another, I could feel myself slipping. I kept reminding myself of the wins, of taking one step at a time, and just doing my best. I'd love to pretend things like that roll off my back but that would be a lie. They hurt. Even if there's no big problem to fret over, the little ones can gang up on you if … [Read more...]
When you don’t have the energy to do it all, you can still win
You don't begin to tackle a big mess by organizing. First, you delcutter. You get rid of the unnecessary and the useless. Then, you organize. The same goes for increasing your energy. More fountains, less drains. I've been thinking about energy a lot lately. It started, as usual, when I was feeling stuck, trying to find more of it. We're so focused on managing time but don't think much about energy. It doesn't take my tired, stressed and frustrated mind long to knock over the first … [Read more...]
Some perfection, too much fear, and when it’s okay to make a mistake
You're making a mistake. This time, it wasn't subtle, or a suggestion. I heard it loud and clear. A couple of years ago, I sat my parents down and told them about my intention to sell my practice. I wanted to do other things, and when the time was right, or should I say, better than right away, I was going to do it. Make the mistake, I mean. It was a classic parental response, maybe one you've heard too. Protecting the cub and all that. An understandable, if predictable … [Read more...]
How to Conquer the Inconvenience of a Good Habit
The gym is an awful, awful place. Not because I hate going, but it's February and the new-resolutioners have been in season for weeks. Now don't get me wrong, I'm no hater. I was new once. And I wish each and every person success with their fitness. But you and I both know that soon, only a fraction will stick around. They will have found their groove, time in their schedule and good gym manners. Maybe one day, we'll even become friends. I applaud this tenacious bunch. Making … [Read more...]