The goal rush vs “it’s part of the process”

  Results seekers, goal getters, high achievers and accomplishment lovers— You know and live for the high of wins; it’s what makes you tick, and what fuels you forward. But sometimes, the path you choose to getting what you want (or think you want) leaves a lot to be desired. Things tend to get intense. […]

Confidence: How some have it easy, and what to do if you don’t

  I have a friend who succeeds at pretty much anything she touches. New business? She already owns one, so why not start another? Website, manufacturing, marketing, she’s on it. Neither starting nor following through are a problem. Room remodel? She finds the right people in a jiff, knows what she wants, and viola, it’s […]

Stop asking for good advice. Get real advice instead.

Their voices were so loud my head was ready to explode. I couldn’t make them stop. It was my own fault. I had opened the door and they all rushed in, flooding every crevice they could find. I should’ve known better. At least, that’s what I’ve been told. That’s the problem with advice. You go […]

5 Ideas too sexy for their own good (and why you shouldn’t fall for them)

You thought they were the “one”. But they broke their promise, let you down, and if they got far enough, they broke your heart. Nothing tastes quite like the bitter disappointment of discovering you fell for a sham. They told you what you wanted to hear, and you fell hook, line and sinker. It’s a […]

The difference between your heroes and . . . everyone else

In the movie Footloose, Kevin Bacon stood out by taking on a whole town because he wanted to dance. In Legally Blonde, Reese Witherspoon was ridiculed by her peers for how she dressed and spoke, even though she got into law school just like them. In these movies, and hundreds like them, we cheer for […]

What to do when you don’t get what you want (and after you do)

“You’re going to spend more time getting there than staying there.” This semi-awkward line is from my own book. Yes, I just quoted myself. While the line could use some work, the wisdom behind it has been time-tested over hundreds of years. But there’s a good reason it’s still around and why I bring it […]